Hi, I'm Oliver, the creator of Togething.
For the two-week guided Togething experiment, scroll further down. ↓
Well, where should I start?
Probably with the things a reader may actually want to know first: who is Oliver, what does he do, and what are his intentions? Past, present, and future.
So let me mention a few points before connecting the dots.
I'm a German communications engineer and software project manager. In parallel, I’ve always been deeply interested in human psychology, inner work, and the question that never really left me alone: “then what’s behind it?”
I’m grateful for having had a life with many ups and downs, including some extreme and painful parts, because when they were sublimated, they gave me something valuable. Gold, actually.
And I’ve always had this strong tendency to help others, even when I myself needed help. There was a time when I thought my motive for helping others was maybe just a way of indirectly helping myself, and therefore not fully genuine. Later I understood that this is actually how it works: you help yourself through helping others, and you help others through working on yourself.
Besides that, unsurprisingly, I’ve had executive function challenges myself. Difficulty doing things. Getting stuck. Falling into the negative loop of low perceived self-efficacy, lower performance, and then even lower belief in myself.
The idea of Togething was born out of all that.
Togething is a model that gives the mind factual evidence that “you are capable,” through systematic celebration of small wins and positive social reinforcement. From the day you start, you begin [literally] writing a new life story, based on real evidence of progress instead of pressure, fantasy, or empty affirmation.
Almost like how algorithmic social media trains the mind to keep scrolling and seek attention, but here, reinforcement is used in the productive direction: to strengthen people’s belief in their ability to act, make progress, and improve their lives.
The model is simple: goals, or intentions, are defined. Small daily wins are shared as celebrations. Other people can support and celebrate them with you. And the changes are measured through a short structured self-evaluation around wellbeing, clarity, focus, motivation, progress, support, belonging, meaning, hope, and more.
In this platform model, there are no ads and no personal information collection beyond what is needed for basic sign-up and login, and those details are not used for any commercial purpose. Since the revenue model is not based on advertising, we are not interested in users’ personal data. We even encourage anonymity.
The platform is designed to earn from commissions on optional 1:1 coaching, which also helps coaches earn a living by actually supporting people. Currently, the model is not profitable, but hopefully, with public support, we'll have a sustainable public benefit platform that meets the real needs of people, not advertisers and investors.
(The two-week guided Togething experiment conducted by me is free, anyway. More about that below.)
Developing Togething has been a long journey, technically, psychologically, and spiritually.
Among all the challenges, there was also this strange weight of assuming that I should somehow be a role model as the creator of a platform that helps people with executive function and progress.
It was not the right assumption, but maybe it was a fortunate one. It pushed me to become the best plausible version of myself.
There are many stories from this journey that I will share publicly at the right time.
But the short version is this: if there wasn’t a big mission behind it, I probably would not have survived the grind of this journey.
I believe the world is in a critical situation, and we urgently need better ways to connect to ourselves and one another.
That is the mission of Togething.
Join the two-week guided Togething experiment
At this stage, I’m inviting a small number of early members to experience Togething in its most structured and supported form, guided personally by me.
The purpose is to evaluate the model's effectiveness in a systematic way, understand what changes for people who actually use it, and create a real example for future coaches and therapists who may use Togething to support their clients and patients. It is also a chance for the first pioneer members to help shape the atmosphere of a new kind of social platform from the beginning.
The program takes 3 to 5 minutes per day. Each day, you celebrate at least one small win from your day. No matter how small it is. Actually, especially if it feels small. Over time, this is how you start [literally] writing a new life story, based on real evidence of progress instead of pressure, fantasy, or empty affirmation.
There are also a limited number of coached spots available. If you choose the coached version, you currently receive two free 55-minute coaching conversations with me, one per week, during the two weeks.
You also fill in a short self-evaluation at the beginning, at the end of the first week, and at the end of the second week. It usually takes 2 to 3 minutes. At the end, you receive your own results, showing changes in areas such as energy, mood, stress, clarity, focus, motivation, progress, self-belief, support, belonging, meaning, and hope.
For the assessment side, we are interested in the overall effectiveness of the model, not in doing anything with your personal data. The program is completely free, and there are no follow-up email sequences after participation.
To join, send me a message on Togething.
When you click the button below, it will take you to install the app, sign up, go through a quick onboarding, and then redirect you to my profile on Togething (@OliverKalali).
You’ll also receive a welcome message from me.
So, just follow the white rabbit and we’ll talk in Togething.
